Suffering From Shyness?
Are You Suffering From The Daily Anxiety Of Being Shy?
Are you suffering from shyness? Or could it be something more? Some people who think they are just shy are really suffering from social anxiety. Social Anxiety is often misdiagnosed as simple shyness.
Are You Just Shy?
Ask yourself the following questions:
- Do you worry for days, weeks, months about an event you have to attend?
- Do you immediately start coming up with excuses not to attend an event?
- Do you have an extreme fear of being judged by others?
- Do you have extreme fear of talking to strangers?
- Do you find it almost impossible to use the phone?
- Do you panic when someone knocks on your door?
- Do you avoid going to the store?
- Do you find it extremely hard to carry on any form of conversation online?
- Are you extremely afraid of looking, doing, or saying something “stupid” in social situations?
If you answered YES to any of these, you may be suffering from SOCIAL ANXIETY.
You will learn how to overcome your suffering from shyness, as well as overcoming your suffering from social anxiety.
No longer will you have to sit on the sidelines… missing out on life, hoping and praying to be different.
You will also find out why you must not wait and hope for things to change. You must take action now. Not taking action will result in increased fear and possibly bring on additional problems such as Panic Attacks, Depression, Agoraphobia, and more.
This site will offer proven methods I have used that will take you step by step on a journey to overcome your daily pain and struggles of missing out on life. Resources and methods such as:
- changing your thought process
- setting goals
- defining your beliefs and expectations
- assessing your fears
and much more…
How do I know this?
My name is Pam, and I have Social Anxiety. I can remember instances of panic when I was 4 years old. Obviously I didn’t know then what was wrong, and I didn’t find out until much, much later.
I have been to countless therapists, doctors, psychologists… I have read many books and I have spent hours every day doing research online.
My situation was so bad, I couldn’t even walk out to the mailbox and get my own mail. The worst thing is, I have missed out on numerous events with my children.
I know where you are at; I know how you feel; I know the pain, guilt, and embarrassment that comes with social anxiety.
I also know, if you choose to ignore this disorder, it will continue to get worse. My symptoms escalated to depression, panic attacks and agoraphobia. Until I chose to do something, and you can too!
Hi,
I’ve been told that hypnotherapy works and should give it a try, as I have SA. Do you know if this is correct. Would love to hear.
Thank you
TH.
Yes, TH, I have heard that hypnotherapy works for most people if used regularly. Good Luck!
hi, i also suffer from anxiety, well i hav obsessive compulsive disorder, and i get veally anxious if i do or say somethine i,e if i dont want something to happen, and its getting to the point where i feel isolater and trapped in my own mind, i dont know how to deal with it as much as id like to, ive learnt that if you just ignore the problems and try to blank them out of your mind then you come around and feel much better and forget about them, you are not alone, thouands of people have this problem, i wish you well and try not to worry to much as this will only escalate the problem
It is my Dad who suffers from severe anxiety and this in turn has led to a deep depression. At first the whole family thought that he was just lazy and because he too has a drink problem thought he was just selfish and we wanted nothing to do with him. It is only now as i have got older i am beginning to understand the disease that my Dad has and i am comming to terms with it and trying to understand that it is not his fault why he is the way he is. In my Dad’s case it is a genetic thing. His mother and three of his brothers also suffer from the disease. My Dad was signed into a mental health clinic for weeks just lately and i have now realised how mentally sick he really is and that he needs the support of his family to help him through this torture - thats what i call it - a torture in his mind. He is at a stage where he cannot be left on his own as he has such massive fears from his phone ringing to thuder storms. It is a very frustrating situation and you wish you could just give him a kick up the ass and tell him to cop on but now i understand that that will never happen and he actually cant do anything bout his situation -if my Dad was diagonised with cancer in the morning all the family would be giving him all the support in the world and getting the best treatment possible, well to me at last i can see that this depression/anxiety disease that my Dad has is the same as any other disease only maybe harder as it is very hard to fully understand unless you have information and suppoprt in relation to the disease. I write this message in the hope that anyone who has a family member or friend suffering from depression/anxiety to please try and understand and give them all the support you can as they need it so much because they are just lonely dependent people who need all the love they can get!
That’s another reason people don’t seek help that they need. Cancer is easier to diagnose and more believable and accepted. Torture is a great descriptive word for this crippling disease. I am glad you are giving your dad the support he needs. Good luck!
Hi, I find it is really hard to use computer in front of people. When I do need to do that, I feel extremely nervous. Because of this, I hate training at work and it really limited my career. Do you have any advice? Many thanks.
Hey Julie! Keep telling yourself you are in charge, you are the trainer, you can do this! If you find yourself getting too nervous, you can make a joke about the computer (I hate it when they keep moving the tab key or something along those lines) to get yourself back in check and keep going!
Hello,
I suffer daily with SA. I dont like eating in front of people, scared of doing something stupid, etc. Im wondering what little things i can do to help myself in this situation.
MR
I suffer from anxiety, when I am around people at school & when I am eatinga aswell,
And I also get extremly Nervous when I have to go to school, it makes me so ill, I don’t know what to do anymore. Some nights I just come in and cry for hours and hours
I wish I didn’t have this problem it is ruining my life. I have had concilling about a year ago.. but that did not change anything !!!
Reply back, Dreamer xx
Hi Miss Dreamer, Try to focus only on what you are doing at the moment. Try not to look ahead, nor behind. If it’s going to school, concentrate only on what is happening at the present time. In other words, don’t let your thoughts wander to what’s ahead or what you “think” might happen. Repeatedly tell yourself, I’m going to have a great day! Or, I’m going to ace that exam! Never let any negative thoughts interfere. Good Luck!
Hi Everyone, I suffer badly with SA, I feel it is destoying me it affects my everyday, at work, the shops, friends the little that I have. I never feel good enough and always wonder why people would like me because I am so boring, even as much as my family visiting i think ” why do they want to see me” “what am i going to say to them” how am I going to entertain them”? maybe it is a bit of depression now?? how do you escape this torture, i so badly would like to be someone else.
I feel that when i finally get the courage to go out i have to be a bit tipsy otherwise my mind goes completely blank and i cant think of anything to say anyway, i am just getting so tired of feeling this way. help
Since I had chronic, severe anxiety and severe SA my whole life, I learned a lot on how hard it can be to date and socialize with SA.
Mainstream dating websites, and bars, clubs not a great place for people like us to socialize.
That’s why I created a dating website for people with anxiety, social anxiety and other mental disorders.
Usually people like us are greatly mis-understood and I believe a large part of the depression that co-exist with SA, is mostly rooted in social isolation & feelings of alienation.
I feel that mainstream society neglects people with anxiety disorders or other mental illnesses simply because we are mis-understood.
I would like to contact the admin or owner of this site, but I can’t find another way to message him/her since there isn’t a contact form or e-mail address.
I am wondering if your website offers a link/Ad/article exchange or other program.
My website is a dating website for singles with anxiety disorders.
The URL is: http://www.ChemicalPulse.com/
Please contact me if you are interested, thanks.
I have young children, who r themselves starting to become shy now thanks to me, i dont go shopping till im absolutley out of everything, kids miss birthday parties, xmas carnivals, even getting them to school is hard work they’re almost always late so i can avoid running into anyone.I have missed weddings, friends birthdays, n family events coz id rather aviod feeling uncomfortable, than catch up with ppl i havent seen 4 yrs…..My partner doesnt understand what im going through n tells me i should just listen when he tells me that going out 4 coffee with an old school friend would b good 4 me. i know what he is saying is correct it would b good 4 me to not miss out on that but he doesnt understand what i would b feeling 2 sit there n pretend im in a comfortable place, he even laughed at me when we caught a train into the city once n i got really hot n started crying feeling like i was running out of air…he doesnt realise it makes me feel even worse n even more that its all me n my fault, i dont know how to get myself to doctor to get help….
its so nice to know im not alone. I panic and have fear about the most stupid things. like talking on the phone at work, i am worried that i sound stupid to other people. also that everything i say is unnecessary and that people just ignore everything i say. I often think to myself why do i care what people think, but its beginning to take over my life
I was a bus driver for twenty - five years and had to give it up due to my illness. Here is a statement i gave to various job training places i had to attened
Statement – 8th February 2009
Although my CV might be mildly impressive, I am unable to do any of those things as I am suffering from mental health problems namely anxiety, depression and alcohol dependency for which I am having treatment from the Stonebow unit. I am on anti-depressants, attend alcohol counselling every three weeks, see a physcoligsht every three months and am on a waiting list to see a psychiatrist (12 mths).
Normal life is impossible for me. As a former individual who was confident and well liked, I do not like going out alone and rely on taxis to ferry me about and invoke a sense of fear and suspicion to people who do not know me.
Nobody walks away from a £1800 yr job with a good pension easily –a job I had been in for 25 yrs and relatively enjoyed doing. But I struggled for six or seven years until it was impossible to go on and felt suicidal. It is very likely that my PCV licence will be revoked.
I was claming ESA but had to have a medical with their doctor who said there was nothing wrong with me and was forced to claim Jobseekers allowance thereby making my situation more worrying. My GP strongly advised me to appeal which I did and am waiting to hear the outcome. Any appointment is met with anxiety and to be kept waiting an hour for a jobseekers interview in which I have to tell lies is not complimentary to the recovery of my illness.
I feel abused, have low esteem and think the future looks very bleak.
I have written this statement because I read that a person who did not put on her CV that she had depression was taken to court and sued for supplying false information and the recovery of her sick pay.
CBT is an amazing, quick, and lifelong tool. It is also EVIDENCE BASED - I can’t tell you how important that is. It actually WORKS! There are so many dodgy therapies out there, one has to be careful.
HI,i am suffering from social anxiety since 5 years.Whenever i am in crowed or in my class i become consciuos anout myself a lot.My breath become irreguler,i can’t sit confortably in crowed it become stressful and my head start aching.I force myself to think positive but bcoz of the symptoms i can’t think positive.I become tired and stressful with the imagination that people are watching me.Watching my face continously.I don’t have problem look wise means i am a good looking girl than also i have this problem.When i tell my problem to my parents or brother or sister they don’t understand me they say that you are ok.Nothing happened to me but how can believe this?I am suffering from it they don’t know that i am really going through a stressful daily.I don’t have confidence in me.
In my past i wasn’t good in studies at all in school but i am good in studies.I used to dance a lot and i was having lots of friends but now i have friends but i don’t mix up with them bcoz of my social phobia.When i talk with them than i find un little bit confortable but when i sit quietly i become unfortable that they will see my symtoms of fear,nervousness,my nose show my symtoms.Please please help me by your suggestions and advices.
Thank you
I’m a 33 year old male. What can I say, social anxiety has destroyed my life. I can’t work, and I have never had a girlfriend and never will. I wish I was dead.
hi my anxiety is being caused through a courtcase for custudy for my lovely son aidan but im all so not eating or sleeping crying all the time please reply and try and give me some advice lov donna